Tips for Selecting Your Bridesmaids
By Leah Steenstra
You’ve got one sister, he’s got two. Your college
roommates were the only ones that pulled through all-night
studying sessions with you. You get along so well with those
two co-workers. Then, there is “the group” from
high school. So, how can you possibly choose between them?
While it’s great to have all those close friends, 20
bridesmaids isn’t exactly what you had in mind. Below
are a few tips for selecting your bridal party.
Less is more. The more people you choose
to be a part of your bridal party, the more opinions you
will have to consider, the more difficult it is to schedule
events and fittings, and the more expensive it is for
you! The more bridesmaids you have means more gifts to
buy, more bouquets to purchase, more people at the rehearsal
dinner, more limos to rent…
Generally, you need to figure that you
should have one groomsman for every 50 guests. Since the
amount of groomsmen and bridesmaids are usually equal,
you can use that as a guideline.
Making the Cut
Choose family over friends. Friendships
come and go, but your family will be a part of your life
for a long time to come. In addition, friends will understand
if they are not chosen because of family obligations.
Decide how much work you expect from
your bridesmaids. Choose people who you know will be happy
to help you and can help you because they live locally.
Consider financial needs. If you have
potential bridesmaids that are struggling financially,
do not put the extra burden on them that comes with being
a bridesmaid. If you think they will be hurt if they aren’t
asked and you really want them in your wedding, discuss
the situation with them.
You do not need to include people in
your wedding party even if you were in theirs. Hopefully,
they will understand how hard it is choose and not take
There are many other ways to honor those who
are close to you besides asking them to be placed in your
wedding party. Friends can usher, sing, play an instrument
or read during your ceremony.
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