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Tips For Making a Wedding Toast

Tips For Making a Wedding Toast

So, your groom and his best man never took a public speaking course. In fact, they’ve never given a speech before. Sorry, but those are not excuses in the world of weddings. Here are a few tips to pass on, just in case their tendency is to yell "cheers", and then quickly sit down.

  • Think about what you are going to say. Many brides have said they regretted the impromptu speeches of their loved ones because they didn’t say anything meaningful. If you think you’ll forget what you wanted to say, bring note cards with you.
  • Use a microphone if necessary. There is nothing worse than loosing the audience’s attention because they can’t hear what you have to say.
  • Be brief. Limit your speech to 3 or 4 minutes.
  • Don’t isolate parts of your audience. If only 15 out of 100 people understand the inside joke, then don’t tell it. Likewise, if you a mention a person that many people don’t know, use a label to clarify their relationship to you such as, "Maria, my cousin".
  • Back characteristics up by using an example. For instance, "This couple is so adventurous. Did you know that on their first date they went bungee jumping?" This keeps the audience’s interest, but also makes the speech more memorable.
  • Pick a few main points to talk about. Do not give a speech where you go down a list of generic terms, such as, "My wife is funny, smart, loving, compassionate, caring, fun to be with, etc, etc, etc." Instead, pick 2 or 3 points that you want the audience to come away with and take the time to develop them.
  • Don’t make negative remarks. It is not a good idea to finish your toast by saying, "Here’s to the new couple. Let’s hope they don’t end in bitter divorce like I did." Another no-no is to make negative remarks about someone’s appearance or personality. For instance, calling the groom a "womanizer" (kidding or not) is not a good way to commemorate the day.

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