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   A Wedding Countdown Planner

A Wedding Countdown Planner

12 months before the wedding

  • Select a Wedding Date and Time (and possibly a backup date)
  • Announce your engagement in the local newspaper and online.
  • Select what type of wedding (formal, informal, etc.) and time of day
    (size, formality, and setting)
  • Set a wedding budget with fiancé and family
  • Decide who will pay for what and how expenses will be shared
  • Consider hiring a professional wedding consultant
  • Draw up your guest list
  • Select friends and family to serve as wedding attendants
  • Get your ideas for themes and color schemes, for your reception and decorating plans.
  • Start health and fitness plan if you're not already on one!
  • Register with your favorite bridal registry
  • Plan an engagement party with family and friends
  • Set appointment with ceremony site representative
  • Select and contract your officiate
  • Select and contract the wedding and reception sites
  • Select a Photographer and/or Videographer
  • Select a Caterer
  • Select your DJ and or Musicians and plan a song list
  • Select your Florist and flowers
  • Shop together for your wedding rings
  • Select wedding dress, headpiece, and accessories
  • Select your bridesmaids dresses and accessories with bridesmaids
  • Start thinking about a honeymoon location

6 months before the wedding

  • Assist your mothers with shopping for their dresses
  • Order your wedding invitations
  • Select and order the groom's and ushers' attire
  • Meet with travel agent and plan honeymoon
  • Order passports if needed for honeymoon
  • Order your attendants’ gowns and accessories
  • Select bakery and order wedding cake
  • Call county administration or courthouse for information on obtaining marriage license
  • Book your wedding transportation
  • Shop for your trousseau and wedding shoes
  • Reserve restaurant for wedding rehearsal dinner
  • Finalize reception menu and music selections
  • Check out Lodging arrangements for out-of-town guests

2 months before the wedding

  • Obtain marriage license
  • Finalize and send remaining announcements
  • Finalize guest list and mail invitations
  • Purchase wedding gifts for groom and attendants
  • Open joint checking and savings account
  • Have consultation with hair stylist and makeup artist
  • Order your bridal lingerie for the honeymoon
  • Plan bridesmaids' party
  • Have engagement portraits taken
  • Finalize what your wedding day accessories
  • Arrange attendants parties
  • Finalize accommodations for out-of-town attendants and guests
  • Set appointments for a hairdresser and/or makeup artist
  • Check your Bridal and Honeymoon Registries Finalize all honeymoon plans

1 month before the wedding

  • Final wedding dress fitting
  • Final fitting for your wedding attendants
  • Have your attendants parties
  • Purchase your going-away outfit
  • Create a calendar of events for the wedding day.
  • Make sure your accessories are in order (rings, pillow, garter, etc.)
  • Select shop to preserve your wedding gown
  • Make seating plan for reception and write up place cards
  • Contact credit card companies, Social Security, bank, and DMV if you will be changing your name and/or address.

2 weeks before the wedding

  • Confirm final details with your wedding site, as well as with your officiant, florist, photographer, videographer, DJ, musicians, reception site, caterer, limo company, and travel agent etc.
  • Provide a list of music you would like played (or not played)
  • Finalize music during special events such as first dance, with dad
  • Shop for any needed trousseau items & pack for the honeymoon
  • Pick up your rings and check that the engravings are what you requested
  • Make sure your rings fit!
  • Contact the guests who have not responded to your invite.

The week before the wedding

  • If you can, take part of the week off from work!
  • Make sure your marriage license is in order
  • Purchase travelers checks, confirm honeymoon reservations
  • Pack your baggage for your honeymoon
  • Have your wedding ceremony rehearsal
  • Instruct your wedding party on what they will be doing on the day of the wedding
  • Have your rehearsal dinner
  • Make sure all wedding attire fits properly
  • Give the best man the amounts your vendors are to be paid on the day of the wedding
  • Inform your caterer of the total guest count
  • Confirm out-of-town guests have transportation and sleeping accommodations.

The day before your wedding

  • Take a deep breath
  • Have a day of pampering at your favorite beauty spa with your bridesmaids
  • Final packing for church, reception and honeymoon
  • Attend Wedding rehearsal and dinner if not done previously
  • Keep alcohol intake to a minimum
  • Try to get a good night's sleep

The Big day!

  • Have fun! --Your primary goal today is to get married!
  • Forget about everything above!
  • Relax, enjoy yourself, and remain calm!
  • Allow at least two hours for dressing
  • Allow plenty of time to apply your makeup and style your hair
  • If professionals are doing your hair and/or makeup, determine the time they will need
  • If photographs are to be taken before the ceremony, allow plenty of time for that!
  • Remember to bring the rings and marriage license
  • Have ushers seat guests as they arrive
  • The groom's parents should be seated about 5 minutes before start time
  • Mother of the bride is normally seated last
  • Take a deep breath, don't worry, BE HAPPY and SMILE!

After the Big Day

  • Go on your honeymoon!
  • Have mother or bridesmaid take your wedding gown in to be cleaned and preserved.
  • Have the best man return the groom's wedding attire
  • Live happily ever after!

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