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   Getting Married the Second Time Around

Getting Married the Second Time Around

Getting married for the second time? Or maybe you're marrying someone who has already been married before? Here are a few tips...

Don't Ask - Don’t ask about the details of his first wedding… and if you were married before - don’t bring up what you did at your first wedding. Just concentrate on planning the wedding the way you want it to be.

Big Versus Small - What about if he’s been married before - and you want a large, traditional wedding and he wants something much smaller and informal. This can happen with couples that aren’t even dealing with a previous marriage. The only answer here is COMPROMISE.

If your groom-to-be has been married before, then he should allow you the opportunity to have the wedding that you’ve always dreamed of. On the other hand, you still need to compromise too. If your fiancé agrees to the church ceremony for 200 guests, then, you should let him choose the reception location.

Remember, choose your battles carefully. You can’t win on every point, so choose which things are the most important to you.

What to Wear? - No matter whether it is your first, second or third wedding… the focal point is still the wedding dress. Many second-time brides choose a simpler, more elegant or sophisticated wedding dress. Many second time brides will choose a floor length or cocktail length dress in white, off-white or a pretty pastel. Many choose a dress that they may wear again, such as a cocktail length dress or a dressy, feminine looking suit.

Many "etiquette experts" advise second-time brides to not wear a veil or a long train for their second wedding. DON'T LISTEN to them! This is your day - wear what YOU want to wear! Maybe you had a very small first wedding and now you want to go all out! Wear what makes you feel beautiful!

When it comes to bridesmaids, many second time brides choose to have a smaller wedding party with again, simpler style of bridesmaids dresses.

Children in Weddings - If you or your fiancé have children from previous marriages, include them as much as possible in your wedding plans!

Children can be flower girls, ring bearers, bridesmaids, ushers, junior attendants or even the best man or maid of honor. Children can do special readings, sing a song or play an instrument to be part of the ceremony. Wedding vows can also be written to include children.

Including Older Children in Your Wedding
12 Tips for Children in Weddings
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Keeping Kids Happy at the Reception

Should I Register for Gifts? - YES! You may feel uncomfortable that friends and family gave you gifts at your previous wedding. There is no getting around that! People will want to give you a gift for your wedding. By registering, you help yourself by getting gifts that you want and you also help your guests in choosing gifts for you too.

When selecting items for your registry… you may already have all the china and kitchen items that you need, so try registering for other items such as sporting equipment (his and her roller blades?), camping gear or a new computer.

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