12 Tips for Children in Weddings
Inviting children to take part in your celebration can make
it even more special. However, the last thing you want to
worry about is your flower girl and ring bearer becoming impatient,
restless or fidgety on the day of the wedding. Here are some
helpful tips to ensure that the day goes smoothly...
As a general rule, when choosing children
to take part in your wedding as a flower girl or ring
bearer, it is usually best (or at least more predictable)
to have children ages four and above. Now, of course,
each child is different and you'll want to consider their
personality (very shy vs. outgoing) and maturity level
In the weeks before the wedding day,
talk to your flower girl and ring bearer about the events
that will take place before and throughout the wedding
day. Explain what they will wear, where they will go and
what they will have to do. The better young attendants
can visualize their role in the wedding, the better prepared
they will be to cooperate and participate as you would
like them to.
Choose outfits for the flower girl and
ring bearer that are comfortable. Choose comfortable fabrics
- - ones that don't scratch or irritate the skin. Be sure
the children wear comfortable shoes, and if the shoes
are new - that they have a chance to "break them
in" prior to the wedding day.
Purchase some books - - there are some
wonderful books that not only inform flower girls and
ring bearers of their role in the wedding, but also welcome
and celebrate them as a very special part of the bridal
Invite all of your young attendants and
their parents to the rehearsal. Let the children practice
walking down the aisle several times so that they will
feel more comfortable of their role on the "big day".
Make sure that the children know exactly
where their parents will be seated during the ceremony.
Depending on the length and style of the ceremony, you
may want the children to go and sit with their parents
during the ceremony.
The parents of the flower girl and ring
bearer should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. However,
many rehearsal dinners can go as late as 10:00 or even
later. Therefore, it is recommended that the children
not attend the dinner. Talk with the parents to see if
a babysitter could be arranged ahead of time.
Ask the parents of your flower girl and
ring bearer to make sure their children are well rested
before the wedding. A good night's sleep the night before,
or even a nap the day of, can help little ones get through
Assign a bridesmaid to each child in
the bridal party. Have each of your secret helpers keep
a goody bag handy. Fill it with nutritious treats (dry
cereal, crackers, carrot sticks), crayons and paper, a
bottle of water and small travel games. These kid supplies
will come in handy while traveling from the church to
the reception, while waiting for photographs to be taken,
or during the reception.
Take photos with the flower girl and
ring bearer as early in the day as possible --preferably
before the ceremony. Then, there is less chance that their
outfits could get dirty, torn, wrinkled... you know how
Be sure to express your heartfelt appreciation
to the children in your bridal party. Photographs make
a cherished gift for flower girls and ring bearers of
all ages. They will enjoy reflecting on pictures of themselves
and remembering the special role they played in your wedding.
Kids are unpredictable! All the practice
and preparation in the world does not mean that they will
perform their role "flawlessly". Don't expect
perfection. Remember, if it doesn't go just as planned,
it will make for entertaining clips in your wedding video.
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